Month of Mondays Part 3/4 - The Joy Of Defeat

Sometimes relationships are a bit of an uphill struggle. A dear friend of mine and I happened to be going through the same thing at the same time, and I wrote this for him. I watched him help, help and help his partner who always needed more than he could give. And I watched him move out, but not really move on... there seems to be a lingering feeling of 'would that I could' and this song is written on the very edge of that feeling. A kind of joy in letting go, a kind of regret at not being able to do anything more, a kind of wishing things to be different, but a kind of acceptance of how things are...

I wrote it from his perspective, though the topic is personal to me too, and likely to most people. Haven't you also tried to help someone that doesn't really want to be helped? And felt sympathy but also need a safety distance...? There is something to letting people be the way they are....

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The Joy of Defeat

I lost you years ago my friend, 
Not for lack of trying oh you drove me round the bend! 
But there's only so many times I can fall 
Right back into your firing line, my backs against the wall. 

Still dragging your feet over the ground? 
Still kicking and screaming out loud? 
And...I know that we both really dropped the ball, 
But there's no need to keep banging my head on your walls! 

Oh oh, I'm Losing you, 
But there's joy in being defeated too. 

There's no-where to turn now you're gone. 
I haven't even got misery with which to write a song. 
It's a wonder you're still going through 
The same old shit that you always knew. 

Oh oh I'm losing you, 
But there's joy in being defeated too. 

Only you'll know when you reach the end, 
Still I don't want to lose you my friend. 
And I know that it's not my place now to offer help, 
But know that I would if I could untie your rope. 

Oh oh I'm losing you, 
But there's joy in being defeated too!

P.s. Thanks to Kev Wicks for making a pun (with this picture) about 'De Joy of De-Feet'!! :D Silliness always welcome!!